Focus on the Gains. Part 2

About a year go on this blog I wrote about focusing on what you can gain rather than what you may lose or have to sacrifice.

This weekend I had the urge to write down everything I’ve gained in the month of January. Never felt the need to do it before but it just seemed like the right thing to do. This list was completely off the top of my head, in no particular order and if I stayed thinking about it there’s at least 5 more I could add without struggling.

Here’s the list in the order I wrote it down.

An employee

A virtual assistant

A business bank account

A limited company

More fitness

A trimmer body

Improved knowledge of life leverage

A personal trainer

A deeper friendship

A new/renewed friendship

A wedding invitation for December

New trainers

A very full social/business diary

An event planner

A new business client.

Now I’m feeling E.P.I.C.


When was the last time you took stock of what you’ve achieved or gained?

Focussing on what you gain is very powerful
Superman approves of this list.

Work from Home Week

This week is “Work From Home Week” and I mentioned at the start of the week that I would come back to this.
There’s a myth that working from home is full of distractions and is loads of fun. Or that as a self-employed person you have to work long hours, give up your social life, family time and pour everything into your business.

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Your Heart’s Desire

I shared this quote last year and it is worth repeating. “God” can be a loaded word so replace it with whatever makes you feel comfortable. I like “the universe” but you might prefer “the infinite”, it doesn’t matter, the essence is what is important.

Your Heart’s Desire – Emmet Fox

“Already in your past life from time to time, God has whispered into your heart just that very wonderful thing, whatever it is, that He is wishing you to be, and to do and to have. And that wonderful thing is nothing less than what is called Your Heart’s Desire. Nothing less than that.

The most secret, sacred wish that lies deep down at the bottom of your heart, the wonderful thing that you hardly dare to look at, or to think about – the thing that you would rather die than have anyone else know of, because it seems to be so far beyond anything that you are, or have at the present time, that you fear that you will be cruelly ridiculed if the mere thought of it were known – that is just the very thing that God is wishing you to do or to be for Him.

And the birth of that marvellous wish in your soul – the dawning of that secret dream – was the Voice of God Himself telling you to arise and come up higher because He had need of you.”

What’s your heart’s desire for 2018? Share it only if you want to.

What is your heart's desire? Shine a light on it and see!
What is your heart’s desire?

Third Way Man

On the back of a conversation in a Facebook networking group I’d written a long blog post discussing the pros and cons of the hustle and grind mentality of most entrepreneurs and self-employed people, and how I have done my time in hustle mode and don’t want to go back there.

As part of that discussion, this website was linked. When I went to check it out I realised Bryan Ward is saying everything I wanted to say far more eloquently and with much more clarity. Go read his site. My top 3 articles so far are

One Virtue I’ll Never Teach My Kids

The #1 Reason Entrepreneur Dads Burn Out – (also applies to Mums!)

and this one – Bang Your Drum

This guy is DAMN GOOD.

Benefits of using video to promote your business – Tips from a Video Expert

Today we’ve got a guest blogger! Andy Green is a video expert and is here to share why you should be using video in your business, across the board, not just within social media.


It’s the year of video – according to and I agree. Video is becoming more and more popular in marketing plans, for websites and social media. I heard a quote once, which is quite inspiring, ‘If a picture is worth a thousand words, then the power of video can be limitless’.

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Be like Bon Jovi… Keep the Faith

I want to share something important with you. When it’s all going to shit, when the poop is really flying at the fan, HOLD ON. This is the time your resolve is being tested the most.

Last weekend my family and I said good bye to our horse. I can’t begin to describe the pain and guilt and anguish over this loss. It’s almost a week on and we are sad to our bones, troubled by the decision we had to make and missing her kind face and soft warmth.

On Monday I took a personal day and spent time with my mum and sisters. I also had a proposal due in to a client that day, with a meeting booked in to discuss it on Thursday. I also have my online course which I’ve been developing and have people interested in joining.

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